We met when I was in my mid 20's, and he was in his mid 30's...It was love from the very first moment...A Love, like I have never known...we were married within 6 short months of dating...We knew we were meant to be together forever...We always joked that we had to stay together, because no one else would ever have either of us, LOL...We moved from our home in AZ across the country, for him to be closer to his family, and to be back in the place that he loves, IA...
Not known to us at the time, Boy has given Girl the greatest gift ever...The gift of a child...Our daughter Montana was born just 8 months after we got to Iowa...I can never thank him enough, for this gift...
We have had hard times...We have had family members die...He has struggled with addiction and alcoholism...We have struggled at times to pay bills...But we have always remained true to each other...
Jump to current day...maybe someday, I will go in and fill in the blanks above, but not right now...Current day 01.15.12...In exactly 7 days we will be celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary, hopefully, maybe...
My Boy has been fighting cancer since his first tumor popped up under his tongue in November 2010...With that very first surgery, we learned, that my Boy has Squamous Cell Carcinoma..in most people, this cancer appears as an outside of the body skin cancer, but not with my Boy...his was all inside his body...It was a very small tumor, about the size of a pencil eraser...They removed it, took out more than they needed in order to get ALL of the cancer cells...They tucked and stretched his tongue, and sewed him all back up...Slip slap, easy as that...
Fast forward to August 2011...We took my Boy into a local ER for what we thought was a swollen glad in his neck that had popped up, and was causing him pain...one CT Scan later, and the Docs are sending us back to our Cancer hospital in Iowa City, to meet with his oncologist/surgeon again...This time, it will not be as easy to take care of...After one PET scan, and a fine needle aspiration, it was confirmed, cancer again, of the same type...The next day, my Boy had surgery again...They did what is called a Radical Neck Dissection...they took out his tumor, which was larger than they thought, his jugular vein, all of his lymph nodes out of that side of his neck, and a major neck muscle...They also, while they were in there scraped cancer cells off of his vocal cords, and a neck tendon...After 5 short days in the hospital, Boy was allowed to come home with me...He was to come home and heal, to get ready for his next step...An 8 week course of chemotherapy and radiation...
I will stop here for now....
Boy Loves Girl, Girl Loves Boy
miss kendra the day will come that this blog will be finished, just remember that just because the blog will be finished does not mean your memories will be finished. i have known people in my life that have been taken by different forms of cancer but i have never actually seen the ravaging effects until today,watching the videos and reading this blog have opened my eyes. i truely want to thank you and troy for having the courage to document the way that you did. i cannot/willnot say that i know what you are going through, because i dont but i do know that i am here for you when times are rough for you you have my number so call if you need or want to even if it is not because you are having a rough time...love to you always miss kendra you are truely amazing i dont know how you do it but i am glad that you do
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